Thursday, February 14, 2008
To those who have loved ones and to those who are spilling their hearts out today to declare their love, who are showing emotions on an 'official given day' whereas the rest of the days it doesn't acquire much publicity, where there is pressure for men to perform and bring home the roses and chocolates anticipating women to drool over them, to those I say ; Look closely at your family and the love of your life; have you really appreciated their company, their surroundings day in day out? Has their presence truly enlightened your soul throughout the years or have you spent most of the time bickering/avoiding/or defending your stand point? Now, don't get me wrong. Valentines is sweet in its presentation, but a bit shallow in its commercialized approach. Of course everyone has their own creativity of delivering the perfect Valentine and again no problems with that. As a woman, even I had to drop a few hints to get the "special treatment" today. But you know what? My love has never lessened or instantly increased just because Valentines decided to announce February 14th the day of love.
haha, my words may come with a little sarcasm, but I am a true romantic by heart and soul. I would encourage men to treat their women with love and make them feel like a princess, but the reality of the matter is that even Valentine would frown upon the many deceitful relationships people carry around with them; the smile, the charm, the promises makes them look lovable and adoring, but the two faced personalities have it all mastered, all figured out.
If there is a day that I would like to be an official day on the calender, before Valentines day...that would be the day to respect and believe in morality, to love unconditionally without the "pretense" of beautiful packaging or bouquets, to hold ones promise and to fully approach on it with purity and decency, a day so pious and full of truth, to truly love someone as if your life was depending on it, to shed tears of utmost joy, to kneel in front of the Creator who has given us all the blessings, yet still we remain ungrateful. If that day approaches anytime soon, I'd be the first to walk the parade, I'd be the first to carve out a heart so big that the whole world; white, black, brown, yellow, purple, green....all of it would fit in. perfectly.
As a society we are guilty for commercializing ourselves far too much, to dramatize "love", how sweet and beautiful it may seem from the surface, digging it deeper to its core one would find a note asking to question ourselves, our role, our character in the movie of the year, called Valentine. The critics may not applaud, your loved ones may not give you a standing ovation, but to follow society and rules, you will blindly walk ahead and ignore the natural signs of stepping back into reality, putting importance on impressing friends with an exaggerated story where you surprised him/her on this BIG day of supposed love.
Love to me is pure, it is natural like a mother bird feeding worms to its baby birds, it is beautiful like the blooming of a new flower, it is fulfilling like eating a bowl of ice cream and it is surely incredible like an unexpected miracle from the Higher Powers of this Universe.
When receiving a beautiful rose stem from my loving husband today, I was excited to give it its own place in a vase on the side table where the color red pops out, like bright red lipstick on starch white skin. His one rose was a sea of rose petals for me leading towards a destination I know of, the safe haven of trust and such intense love that is shown through sweet commitment. That is in existence between a husband and a wife, from one person to another.
My valentine isn't justified for being married, but it is justified for having a clear view of love...labeling the relationship with any name doesn't make a difference as long as the intentions are clear. My emphasis will always lie on this, whether today or tomorrow...we need help as a society to stop sugar coating the true meaning of living and start living a life of true purpose and love.
My heart goes out to those students killed in Chicago today in the lecture hall of their University. What statement was the shooter trying to make on Valentines day??? Why the killings? Why the violence, hatred and desperation of taking lives? What is happening to the young???
Love should not be alone, it shouldn't appear for one day and walk out the door in all its selfishness. I am deeply sorry for the losses and I pray for betterment, for a peaceful future where our kids later can be sent out to school without the fear of them not returning ...ever again.
I will rest my case here. The jury has adjourned Your Honor, off to eating chocolates and making it all disappear with the opening of a wine bottle and the arranging of beautiful gifted flowers... tell me...whom are we kidding here?